I was settling down in the movie theater to watch “Les Miserables” and the thought struck me, then, of what I should write about today. We each carry our own burdens and how we face them/allow them to affect the way we handle them shapes our days. I know, intellectually, that there are people around the world (if not even around the corner) who are suffering in their lives worse than I am. We all know this, and we also know we can’t take the entire weight of the world on our own shoulders. It is just too much.
We can work on ourselves, be better for ourselves, and so hopefully be able to be better for others, offer more of ourselves to others-even just one other person-when we’re not bogged down, knee deep in our own trials and tribulations.
Knowing the musical I was about to see, and the real life suffering that existed then…and now…put me in a different place while watching the film version. I still hurt, I’m still anxious…and I’m trying to put things in perspective.
When we came back home, I had an email from an internet friend. No air quotes. Friend. Supporter. All around good guy, from what I know of him. He has a medial condition that may not allow him much time left with us. Timing is unknown. His biggest fear is not for himself (although I’m sure there is that: stoicism in the aftermath of bad news, maybe) but for the one he’ll leave behind. My heart is heavy with this news, and I offered him all I could: my thoughts, and I will include him in the prayers that have now become part of my daily routine.
He mentioned leaving something eternal behind him, and, in all honesty, the best I can think of is that we should try to leave behind good memories, smiles, and a sense that our lives meant something to not only ourselves but to at least one other person, if not many. That we touched them in some good way, supported them as we would like to be supported, and loved as we’d like to be loved.
My worries are of a financial one right now, and my future; his are life and death, and his future. It’s up to us to handle what we are going through with as much grace and strength as we can.
I know I wish my friend much grace, much strength, and that he continues to look for what good he can do now and in the timeto come.
I wish that for any who are suffering, in any way, as well.
Posted on December 30, 2012, in Caring, Counsling, Family, Fear, Friends, Grief, Inspiration, Love, Mindfulness, Support, Therapy and tagged Anne Frank, anxiety, breathing, caring, compassion, concern, coping, Counsling, death, depression, emptiness, Fear, frightened, giving thanks, God, hope, Laughter, love, Memories, patience, poverty, rededication, searching for work, Stephen Hawking, strength, Talking to God, Terminal Illness, Thich Nhat Hanh, unempolyment. Bookmark the permalink. 3 Comments.